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I’m getting sick and tired of listening to hopeless romantic guys – it’s like an inhibiting disease spreading through our society paralyzing millions of men, and displeasing even more women. The hopeless romantics like to think that an interaction with a woman is special, and they want to make it special, which is correct, just not the way they are envisioning it. It is my theory that romantic comedies have duped more men than they have women. Men watch this tripe and think this is the way to be, that you can win her over in the end, by lavishing gifts, platitudes, acting like a white knight, etc. It simply isn’t true. No ‘act’ of romance will ever sway a women to your favour. And for crying out loud stop listening to women when they bring it up. Being romantic is not only different for men and women, it’s different for every woman.

For the record i have bought flowers once in my life for a woman, it was my mother on her birthday. I have given three roses out that i had gotten for free, one was in highschool and i didn’t even like the chick, my buddy did, the other was my girlfriend (at the time)’s best friend (she i almost banged), and sadly one girl that was a oneitis. I didn’t bang her, even though she wanted it. None of these have any bearing on being romantic, i just wanted to point out that i don’t do traditional romantic shit to bang girls. It’s  cheap ploy and it reeks of desperate obvious seduction. When you’re obvious, you’re blown out, unless you are a chump, and she ‘likes’ you, meaning she’ll date you for a few months while she’s banging more alpha dudes than you, while you keep bringing your gifts and paying for dinners.

Romance is not taking her out on a horse carriage ride, or flying her to Paris for dinner in the Eiffel Tower. Sure a girl will appreciate this and gush about it, who wouldn’t? If a girl did that for me i’d feel pretty fucking good about myself too. This is key, these things are designed to make a girl feel good, but it’s wasted if she hasn’t already been in awe and lust of you. You are wasting your time and money. Sure they can add to an already expanding adoration of you, but you don’t need that if you’re just freakin awesome already.

Too many illusions run through men’s heads about ‘impressing a girl’ – i’m going to tell you something that i want you to never forget. Never try to impress a girl. As soon as you are, you are in a weaker position, you have openly admitted to yourself and to her, that you value her more than yourself, and this will dry her up. She should be valuing you more than her. Trying to impress her also leads to “try hard” which is betrayed by the opening word, trying. Stop it. Girls don’t need traditional romance, it’s not what they think is romantic.

What girls think is romantic, is living in a fantasy world freely. They want to come into you’re world. If you start doing things you would never do, this is not your world, it is a fake, corny, obvious way to convince her that you are romantic – again despite what she says. It’s how she feels and her actions that will tell you when you are doing things wrong. You must take her on adventures and do spontaneous things – but it should be traversing through your world always, not hers. Trying to make her happy, will not make her happy. Taking her with you, in your magical (to her) world will. Once in this place, anything you do for her, little or small, will be romantic – no matter what. She has already been swooned. This is where it pays to be interesting.

Romance will not swoon a woman. You will swoon or not swoon. Romance is just the little perks she may or may not get out of your ambition to have your snake crawl into her hole.

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